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@rhaven

I write about trauma. Parent. Sensitivity reader. Rep'd by Kaitlyn Katsoupis of Belcastro Agency. Anti-oppression, anti-fascist, anti-AI. BLM. Dismantle colonization and capitalism. He/him. Website at www.theirritablequeer.com

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An aesthetic board, images listed from left to right: A woman in a white dress holding a sword; a long, red-carpeted staircase curving down; a close-up of a camera lens; a fair-haired woman with blood red lipstick holding a bloody knife by her face; a dark-haired woman wearing a crown and exhaling smoke; a woman with blue and pink paint streaked down her face, a butterfly over her mouth; a woman's chest bound in rope with three bloody nails hammered into them; a smoking gun; a red moon in a nearly-black sky.

An aesthetic board, images listed from left to right: A woman in a white dress holding a sword; a long, red-carpeted staircase curving down; a close-up of a camera lens; a fair-haired woman with blood red lipstick holding a bloody knife by her face; a dark-haired woman wearing a crown and exhaling smoke; a woman with blue and pink paint streaked down her face, a butterfly over her mouth; a woman's chest bound in rope with three bloody nails hammered into them; a smoking gun; a red moon in a nearly-black sky.

If I launched a Kickstarter for a TTRPG that's basically Magical Girls meets The Hunger Games, based on an original rule system, all about beautiful people who fight an unending tide of monsters (called the Corrupted)...

Who would be interested in that?

10.03.2026 16:45 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Just voted in Canada's federal NDP election! Good luck to my chosen candidate!

09.03.2026 23:05 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

CW: War in Iran

Last night, I dreamed a popular shoe brand had put out a commercial set in Iran. The children wearing the shoes were outrunning bombs and the others were being graphically killed.

I woke up having a panic attack because I could almost believe it was a real ad.

09.03.2026 13:02 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

When I hear someone has 'old school values', my mind instantly leaps to it being a euphemism for being a bigot. Is that a me thing, or is that the insinuation, fr?

06.03.2026 17:27 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Escape the Empire; March 4 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer Why hello, you’re looking at the blog of someone who’s just been certified by the Canadian Training Institute in Crisis Intervention! I’m coming to you this week having had a pretty great weekend, fol...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/3/4/escape-the-empire

04.03.2026 17:11 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Hi Laura! What was formative media for you? Do you ever try to replicate the themes, characters, or vibes from that media?

03.03.2026 21:50 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
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Getting Mad; February 25 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer My motivation is pretty low, lately. I’d almost wonder if I’m in a depressive slump if my mood was lower, but I’m pretty okay, overall. Getting back into the groove of school has been challenging afte...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/2/25/getting-mad

25.02.2026 16:48 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

All ghost kitties are purr-tergeists.

22.02.2026 21:58 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
Talent is for the poors
Talent is for the poors YouTube video by Hidden Rabbits

Going down the rabbit hole that is the 'Hidden Rabbits' channel and thinking Real Hard as I listen to their episode on nepotism.

youtu.be/7IADKjgDIfM

22.02.2026 21:33 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Will do my best to tune in (once my kid's gone to bed)!

22.02.2026 21:25 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Year of the Horse; February 18 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer Happy Year of the Horse, everybody! I’m a member of the horse zodiac, so I’m hoping that’s a sign something big will happen this year. Preferably a decent book deal. We’re not off to the strongest st...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/2/18/year-of-the-horse

18.02.2026 20:59 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

No one respects the amount of self-restraint I use on a daily basis. ESPECIALLY not my cats, whose ears I regularly wish to chomp on, but I don't, because of aforementioned self-restraint.

17.02.2026 04:52 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 2 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Becoming Irrelevant; February 11 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer School has me feeling a bit stagnant from a career standpoint, and that feels rather counter to the point. I haven’t written anything new in a bit – though I do have a new novel concept – and I haven’...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/2/11/becoming-irrelevant

11.02.2026 15:15 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

My favourite part about cats are when they assume you aren’t doing what they want because you’re stupid.

Like, β€˜if I just meow pointedly at the door to the furnace room enough, he’ll understand I want inside eventually.’

No bb I get it, I’m just saying no.

02.02.2026 00:05 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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29.01.2026 20:55 πŸ‘ 9 πŸ” 4 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 1
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22 Poems; January 28 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer I don’t know about y’all, but where I live, we’ve been buried in several feet of snow and had a mild earthquake last night. I think we may have angered Zeus with all our political drama. But enough...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/1/28/22-poems

28.01.2026 16:39 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Murder Commissions are BAAAAACK! Dianna Gunn published a post on Ko-fi

Have you ever wanted to die... in fiction?

Or perhaps commit a (fictional) murder of a billionaire?

Well I've got good news: MURDER COMMISSIONS ARE BACK!!!

Hire me to write you a custom death scene - or a billionaire murder scene - today!

1/3

21.01.2026 16:34 πŸ‘ 39 πŸ” 25 πŸ’¬ 3 πŸ“Œ 17
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Gifted; January 21 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer I think I’m off to a rocky start on this semester. I don’t feel behind, exactly, but the required reading alone has me exhausted. I’m more tired than I have been. I’m not nodding off in class or any...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/1/21/gifted

21.01.2026 17:37 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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I Care Now; January 14 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer Content warning: talk about death.   First week back at university! My classes are a bit intimidating, but I’m up for the challenge. Or, I hope I am. It’s been very odd; I feel like I have n...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-rambli...

14.01.2026 19:27 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

It’s an honour to be included in this anthology!

11.01.2026 15:59 πŸ‘ 5 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
TYT Theatre | Toronto TYT Theatre is a family-friendly live theatre production company based out of the Wychwood Theatre in Toronto. We produce shows the whole family can enjoy!

Saw Seussical with my kid today, and it was absolutely fantastic ✨ Shout out to www.tyttheatre.com!

11.01.2026 00:41 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

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09.01.2026 16:51 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Like Sandpaper; January 7 2026 β€” The Irritable Queer Globally, and personally… 2026 is off to a really rough start, and the fact that I snorted aloud while typing that is indicative of how much of an understatement that is. I’m still trying to keep my ...

www.theirritablequeer.com/queer-ramblings/2026/1/7/like-sandpaper

If you've had any positive news this first week of 2026, I'd love to hear about it on my site.

Sending love to you all. ❀️

07.01.2026 17:30 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

THREAD: Viral misinformation on US capture of Nicolas Maduro - 4 January

This video, shared by Alex Jones and others, falsely claims to show millions of Venezuelans in Caracas celebrating Maduro's capture.

In fact, it shows anti-Maduro protests in July 2024 over a highly disputed election.

04.01.2026 19:29 πŸ‘ 2104 πŸ” 1028 πŸ’¬ 25 πŸ“Œ 69

I’m gonna cry I’m HYPE

04.01.2026 18:47 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

✨Happy 2026! I hope it heralds good news for us all!

01.01.2026 06:04 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Proud and Thankful; December 31 2025 β€” The Irritable Queer It’s been a busy holiday, in spite of existing in the odd liminal space that is β€˜the week between Christmas and the New Year’. I’ve been dogsitting, attempting to get a short story written, and lookin...

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31.12.2025 16:37 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

This year, I:

- Released my debut book
- Completed my first term of university
- Went to my first book con
- Did my first book fair
- Wrote a novella
- Put two more books on sub
- Won a short story literary award

… while continuing to single parent!

What did y’all accomplish that you’re proud of?

29.12.2025 00:33 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 2 πŸ“Œ 0

And Merry Christmas to you! πŸ˜‚ (The pun will dia-be-the death of me)

25.12.2025 02:16 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Eve; December 24 2025 β€” The Irritable Queer Foot care is crucial for diabetes. I know this, on a logical level. But doing moisturizing treatments are sensory hell and I hate it . There we go. Complaining out of the way. Overall, I’m in a gra...

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24.12.2025 19:59 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0