Regarding international options: Here's the most recent report on LGBT+ safety in Europe, people can filter by category to get a full list of countries that offer asylum due to gender identity. rainbowmap.ilga-europe.org
Try Trans Resistance Network
www.transresistancenetwork.org/volunteer.html
TC Pipeline is a trans relocation org located in Colorado which is near Kansas
It would be helpful if you could signal boost them. They could use funding and volunteers, and trans folks in Kansas may want to contact them if they need extraction
Also: the letters sent may be illegal
tcpipeline.org
This thread is now dedicated to organizing aid for trans refugees
If you need help or have help to offer, please @ me
Instructions and updates to follow in below 🧵
www.erininthemorning.com/p/kansas-sen...
God Pam is such a weird, douchy asshole.
I mean so are all of them.
I’m excited!
This exactly.
So much about gendered relationships actually makes no sense at all if you spend any time thinking deeply about it. Humans have some of the least sexual dimorphism in any primate. And yet cis ppl treat each other like they’re a different species that can’t rly understand each other.
We’re talking everything from targeted harassment campaigns to potentially trying to persecute them with trumped up legal charges and, in some cases I’ve read about, parents have shown up at their kid’s house and tried to break in.
It’s all about safety
I hope this is clear to everyone reading. If a person tells you they’ve cut contact with a parent and asks you not to share any information you discuss with that parents…
DO AS THEY ASK
Not doing so is a violation of their trust AND more importantly may put them in actual danger.
If you don’t want your children to ever have to make the same choice, well, you must make a choice yourself. My advice to you:
You can treat your child as your property.
Or you can treat them as a person, with dignity, empathy, and honesty.
It’s your choice, parents. Your kid ding ask to be born.
Either they sink so low you can no longer rule out anything, they show a pattern of no remorse or empathy toward you, or, usually, some combination.
And it’s at that point where children are forced to make a decision. Either they can continue to be abused forever or they can chase recovery.
The details of a survivor’s story vary, but the broad strokes are often the same. I’ve outlined every reason I had for my decision I’m a precious thread and I feel no need to repeat myself.
But the bottom line is this:
At a certain point, you realize that an abuser will never stop abusing you.
Why is it you assume the child is doing this out of nowhere and for no real reason?
Why is it you go out of your way to downplay the abuse you never saw in order to protect a parent you don’t even really know?
Why do you relate to the abuser and not to the abused?
If you are blaming survival who choose safety over perpetual victimhood, I’m begging you. Re-examine your biases.
Why is it that you think a child’s decision to go no contact with a parent is somehow worse than all the abuse the parent has inflicted on them their whole lives?
Once I realized that, not only has she crossed a line she could never uncross, but also she felt no remorse for it and was going to do it again, I knew that the only way I could ever be safe was if she wasn’t in my life.
It’s sad. It’s heartbreaking.
But the children aren’t the ones at fault for it
Forgiveness and anger have very little to do with No Contact decisions. It’s all about safety. It’s never an opening move to cut off a relationship with the people who raised you.
We’ve tried everything else. For me, it was a calm feeling, as if I could finally see clearly.
Friendly reminder:
No Contact is a last resort for children of abusive parents. We tried our whole lives to get them to listen to us for even a second, to understand how their behavior was hurting us and destroying our trust.
But we could never get a word in. They told us they’d never change.
Went to a pride event yesterday. A friend was kind enough to photograph my fit :)
#pride
Hey all! So things are starting to look up. It looks like I’ll be able to get by thanks to everyone’s help.
The more I have the easier it will be though. Currently I have less than $5,000 to my name. If I had just $1,000 more I’d be a bit better prepared.
Between working full time and packing…
gofund.me/b7efaebf4
Here's the updated gofundme! Please donate or share around if you can!
www.gofundme.com/f/help-a-you...
Folks, my friend’s situation has gone from bad to worse. They REALLY need donations now. They might be homeless in less than a week and they’re dealing with illness on yo of it.
If you can give, please do. Anything helps.
Digitally illustrated graphic with big, bold, black text in the center reading "trans lives are more important than harry potter". Two cats with alternating colours of the trans flag lay above the top left and bottom right of the text, turning it pink & blue where they cross over.
happy pride month!
…I don’t have enough time for commissions or secondary work right now. And the job I have, while better than nothing, barely pays me enough for rent, gas, and groceries. After that, I have nothing left to put towards things like medical expenses.
Every little bit helps
Hey all! So things are starting to look up. It looks like I’ll be able to get by thanks to everyone’s help.
The more I have the easier it will be though. Currently I have less than $5,000 to my name. If I had just $1,000 more I’d be a bit better prepared.
Between working full time and packing…
Haven’t had time for art much lately. Trying to survive.
Just popping in to say I am trans. I am non binary. I am queer.
I have never committed or been arrested for a crime. Never even had a traffic ticket. I’ve never needed mental health help for being trans. I’ve never bought a gun.
Here is an updated link to the gofundme page, since that one seems to no longer be working:
www.gofundme.com/f/help-a-you...
Hope you all had a happy Halloween!
I watched the Wish Dragon again and hot damn is it good!
It involved doing the dishes daily (sometimes twice), feeding and watering all the animals, sweeping, dusting, vacuuming, assisting I dinner prep, doing all the laundry, changing my mom’s bed sheets, cleaning the bathrooms at least once a week, cleaning gutters and windows monthly…etc
Let’s get a few things straight.
1. Nobody is a perfect parent. But my dad was about as close as you can get. He was a great man, unafraid to be open about his feelings, passionately invested in his childrens’ futures, willing to encourage goodness through action and example wherever he went.
Ya know, I’ve been thinking lately.
As bad as all this hurt, I think the part that hurt the worst was folks I loved who ended up taking her side. They wouldn’t believe my story no matter how honest I was or how much I pleaded. There’s no way to describe that world-spiraling feeling if betrayal.
