The fun of an ensemble romance series is time passing.
Being able to check-in on the lives of previous couples, seeing the group navigate difficult times together and growing a stronger bond. Not whatever tf Bridgerton is doing with Kate, Anthony, & Daphne absent from a funeral.
too many people never bothered to learn how to express a personal preference without being snobby, rude, or excluding others. jfc.
if you find being arrested on your birthday a tad harsh, there's an easy solution: don't molest kids
the new Wuthering Heights has me feeling like Fran Lebowitz in Pretend Its A City, more or less screaming: informed active audiences were overwhelmingly lost to HIV, and we still haven't recovered.
we need an audience to drive art & culture, otherwise we get this absolute slop.
sometimes you need to mute people on social media, not because they're bad but because their takes are too childish to be a part of your day
every woman has a "this grown-up man tried to get with me when I was a teenager" story. often multiple stories.
we are not surprised by how many men are into kids. we're disappointed that so many people are willing to accept and provide cover for this disgusting behavior.
talking to my partner about Catherine Breillat's films...
him: didn't she direct the "vagina dentata" movie?
me: technically no. but it is a film about using the vagina to frighten men. so spiritually yes, you could say TEETH is Breillat-ism and kick off a decent argument...
got to spend quality time with my family over the weekend 💖
now for my chronic illness payback: spending the week sleeping 18 hours a day, can't work, living in my pjs, pre-made food, needing help with everything, unable to tolerate sunlight, alarm every 4 hours to take Zofran
we really need to interrogate how we talk about weight.
being fat is not a moral failing. weight has some bearing on health, but a person can be heavy and very healthy. many people are fat and happy.
your fat friends and loved ones hear how cruelly you talk about fat people.
There is no male loneliness epidemic. Only emotionally underdeveloped violently unfuckable men with low social skills who perceive accountability as a personal attack: and grown men who live full and engaging lives, intentionally avoiding the first group for their own wellbeing.
exactly!! 💯
calling yourself "submissive" to gain bodily access to someone you're attracted to doesn't make you submissive, it makes you dishonest and predatory.
D/s requires respect and honoring boundaries on both sides of the slash.
things you can do to support trauma survivors in your life:
- talk about expectations and boundaries before doing an activity
- clarify your emotional state ("I'm not upset with you")
- acknowledge when they've been vulnerable with you
- thank them for their emotional labor
anger is a catalyst. if you sit in it, it burns you out.
anger needs to be used as momentum, either to propel yourself away from a bad situation or to drive towards a better outcome.
if you're angry right now, do something with it. speak out, protest, make art, care for others.
really wishing more people had listened to Anita Hill
Just heard a commercial with a fictional child diagnosed with cancer, and the mom starts asking questions... to ChatGPT.
WTF?!? DO NOT SEEK MEDICAL HELP FROM AI!!!
Pick up a book by an MD. Watch a PBS documentary. Get a Care Coordinator or Patient Advocate. You deserve better!
too many people want the benefits of being in a community
(safety, support, grace, patience, education)
without doing the work or developing the skills necessary to be part of a community
(communication, conflict resolution, learning, speaking out, boycotts, protests, sacrifice)
every horrific thing that is happening right now is turning a profit for a small number of people; you need to hate those people, while loving and showing up for your neighbors
you do actually need to speak your politics out loud. it is necessary to weed out terrible heartless people from your daily life.
what a time to have critical thinking skills, pattern recognition, and a conscience...
our Nuremburg will be called the Pretti-Good Trials
rehearsing to sing for a friend's funeral tomorrow.
on this hard day; do small things, show up for each other, and be kind.
its -12 and dropping, fuck ICE
coffee and barber shops are handing out free whistles. that's where we're at. its all hands on deck.
"If you just do as I say, I'll stop hurting you. You're bringing this on yourself."
Every survivor of DV, SA, or child abuse knows these words.
This is what ICE is saying to protestors exercising their constitutional rights.
It is 100% about control through fear and violence.
resistance takes many forms:
- protesting
- documenting violence
- coordinating information & supplies
- maintaining whisper networks
- providing medical care
- legal/financial support
- preserving knowledge, history, stories, ephemera
do what you can, and be good to each other
I'm bisexual in that I'm attracted to confident women, and stray critters that present themselves to me as capable of learning tricks for my amusement
lets do better:
RECLAIMING is when you or your trusted circle consensually address yourselves or each other by a slur to extinguish its oppressive power by bringing it into your identity or culture.
if aimed at other marginalized people non-consensually, that's not reclamation.
helicopters approximately every 25 minutes
