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Aviva Blakeman

@actuallyaviva

author of kissing books (most recently: Hot Lumberjack http://shorturl.at/EIPW5 )snark enthusiast, confirmed spinster, anxiety aficionado, fangirl, she/her

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If being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now. Maybe try being kind for a bit, just for something different. Remember your meds, have some water, moisturize something good. You are loved.

09.03.2026 23:19 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

In addition to daylight savings time, today is the first day the pollen has attacked my sinuses so I’ve been enjoying a super fun vertigo headache. I hope you had a good day and remembered your meds and had some water!

09.03.2026 01:52 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Did you take your meds today? If you didn’t, make sure you take them with dinner, and then top it off with some water before bed so you’re all set for your best life when you are forced to accept reality an hour sooner thank planned tomorrow!

08.03.2026 00:04 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

How you speak about you to you matters. So remind yourself you’re a gorgeous, badass bitch, who makes amazing decisions. Now, did you remember your meds for today? Good job, you, now go drink some water just for funsies!

07.03.2026 01:05 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 2 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

You are perfect. Just as you are. Even if you think you’re not. And you deserve to be taken care of and appreciated. So do that for yourself today. Even if it’s just taking meds or having water or filing your feet. I see you. You are loved.

05.03.2026 23:39 πŸ‘ 5 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Did you make good choices today? I’ll bet you remembered your meds, why not go drink some water just for fun?

04.03.2026 23:46 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Tonight is a good night to decide you’re pretty great. Specially if you’ve been wondering if it’s true. Cause you are. Pretty great. So take your meds, have some water, moisturize your face and feet and love your great big best self.

04.03.2026 01:04 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

You made it all the way through today! And you look great doing it! Double check real quick: did your meds get taken and your water get drunken? Can you drink MORE water? I knew you could do it!

02.03.2026 23:27 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

πŸ‘‹πŸΎ Skyline! This fundraiser is 3 yrs and 4 mos old, but it's down to the last 4% ‼️ & $2719 ‼️

Last month I stepped back from attending births all over the greater Chicagoland area because rideshare algos were eating me alive. 3 wks ago my apartment flooded πŸ™ƒ

I appreciate every bit and I am so CLOSE

28.02.2026 18:39 πŸ‘ 63 πŸ” 95 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 2

I have it on good authority that you’re doing way better than you think. Full stop. You deserve the grace you give to other people. But also you need to take your meds and remember some water. You look thirsty. And great.

02.03.2026 00:25 πŸ‘ 5 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Just because you didn’t get everything you wanted done doesn’t mean today was bad. You got SOME things done. And I bet you took your meds. Maybe even had some water. That’s great!

27.02.2026 23:50 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

That conversation with my manager was HILARIOUS. Because she clearly thought she was being kind and was lowkey offended when I told her most people don’t want that kind of thing if it’s been used (β€œit was the DEMO it was DEMOED not used like THAT”). 2/2

27.02.2026 00:58 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

The thrift store I ran supported a DV facility. One time a lady who had been a passion party type sales person tried to donate her demo kit β€œnot to sell, but for the ladies, because they need positive experiences” and like… WHAT?! 1/2

27.02.2026 00:58 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I am so proud of you, you are going to do something really impressive tomorrow, I just know it! Did you remember your meds today? I actually forgot one so I just had to take care of that. Make sure you have some water with dinner, Kay? For fun.

27.02.2026 00:53 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I used to run a thrift store and 12/10 can confirm this is the kind of unhinged conversation that happens at least twice a week.

26.02.2026 13:56 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

If you’re having a tough day, remember if you do just one thing you need to do you’re winning. Take your meds? One thing. Water? One thing. Moisturize? One thing. All three? Look at you doing three things during a rough day! I’m so proud of you!

25.02.2026 23:12 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Trevor Parsons
β€ͺ@dartmouthcommon.bsky.social‬

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Disclaimer: I do NOT conflate Judaism with Zionism.
This well documented analysis is very scary & deserves your attention. AI, Big Data, the Surveillance State will have more signifigance once you listen, as will the meaning of The End Times. 
New to me: Pax Judaica.

Trevor Parsons β€ͺ@dartmouthcommon.bsky.social‬ Follow Disclaimer: I do NOT conflate Judaism with Zionism. This well documented analysis is very scary & deserves your attention. AI, Big Data, the Surveillance State will have more signifigance once you listen, as will the meaning of The End Times. New to me: Pax Judaica.

Pax Judaica is an antisemitic conspiracy theory, whether you make it about Zionism/Israel or not.

And if it somehow was magically not antisemitic, it would still be an outlandish conspiracy theory. One that has gained traction in some corners of the left since Oct 7th.

Please block this person

25.02.2026 22:00 πŸ‘ 119 πŸ” 39 πŸ’¬ 12 πŸ“Œ 4

In a world that hard edges, being soft is punk as fuck. You’re allowed to be vulnerable and kind to other people and most importantly yourself. Remember your meds. Have some water. Moisturize something. You’re loved.

24.02.2026 23:26 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Being honest about stuff that causes shame feelings is brave as fuck and I’m super proud of you, friend. Take care of yourself tonight and remember your meds, have some water and moisturize something. Also I heard you changed your sheets! Boss move.

24.02.2026 01:06 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

It was my β€œof all the things making me feel like shit, this is a thing I can do something about” thing. I even put it away. There’s still more to fold, but it’s no longer mount doom!

23.02.2026 17:57 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I am having a day where my brain is lying to me and I’m having anxiety spirals about money. I can’t do much but say feelings don’t last and fold the laundry. But I remembered my meds and moisturized and I know you did too, so not everything sucks.

22.02.2026 23:54 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I have it on good authority that you were the best part of someone’s day today. So you should do something nice for you to celebrate. Maybe take your meds and have some water and live dangerously and moisturize.

22.02.2026 00:47 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Today was so much better than yesterday. Which is a great reminder that moods change all the time and it’s okay to not be okay. That said, I hope you had a good day too and you remembered your meds and had some water! I’m proud of you.

21.02.2026 00:43 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Thank you so, so much to everyone who has been able to offer aide (or just empathy) so far, I appreciate it so much more than you know. I’m so close to being able to breathe I can taste it. If you haven’t seen this yet and would like to help, I would be beyond grateful.

20.02.2026 14:01 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

YOU BE NICE TO YOU! (That means remembering your meds, drinking some water, and also some slow jazz and some foods. You know. Cause you deserve it.)

19.02.2026 23:15 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I am so incredibly blessed and lucky in my friends. I love every one of you and hope you all get to live your best lives every second of every day. And that you remember your meds and have some water and moisturize something sometimes maybe.

19.02.2026 01:01 πŸ‘ 6 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

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18.02.2026 17:33 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

Well, fml. Just got hit with a surprise bill for $600 that I can only cover a third of. It’s so hard out here for just about everybody. That said, if you have some spare change and find value in my med/be nice to you reminders, please think of me. PayPal: @ actuallyaviva

18.02.2026 14:11 πŸ‘ 6 πŸ” 4 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 1

No one likes a chapped ass.

18.02.2026 01:35 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

Just cause you get to make your own choices doesn’t mean you have to be happy about every choice you make. Sometimes it’s rough and you are allowed to be annoyed. But remember your meds. Have some water. Moisturize your ass or it’ll chap.

17.02.2026 23:15 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0