Bex

I love it so much!

Me: Oh look, something I am really excited about and looking forward to.
My Disabilities: Hold my Beer

Fuck.

I’ve been learning ASL recently and I was hoping that this question might reach someone who is deaf for an answer. I know Name Signs need to be given by a deaf person but what about pets? Can a hearing person give their cat a name sign, or do they need to wait for a deaf person to visit?

I worked in a group home in Cambridge many years ago. The police we called to us multiple times (which is unusual) and Cambridge at that time had a mental health squad (?) of the police so usually it was always the same people responding. It made us and our clients safer.

Huge reminder that if someone tells you who they are, listen. If someone says something like ummm “I don’t want to be around trans people until they are finished” and “calling someone an incel is derogatory and a slur” and “I have been called an incel a lot by many people”, block them.

Last night I started brainstorming some fiction writing, which I have struggled to do for years after grad school. I am actually pretty proud of myself in the amount I got actually down in Scrivener in an hour and so happy it has a section for brainstorming and research.

Thank you. I thought for once since I moved I would be going home for something that wasn’t a funeral or memorial.

I lost yet another friend and member of my community. This is the second person I considered part of my extended family that has died in under a year. I can’t even remember everyone I know now that has died. I’m 40. All of my friends dying is not supposed to start this young. I can’t believe it.

When I said I thought I wouldn’t survive this presidency, this is what I meant. I am served by at least 5 of these programs, paying for my utilities, mental illness care, medical care and more. I worked in behavioral healthcare until I was disabled, and it hurts to see those programs cut too.

A right hand with the thumb wrapped in medical tape holds a pink knitting project over a white sheet with blankets in the background.

Why is your thumb wrapped in medical tape, Bex? Did you injure it? No, I just have bad habits with how I knit and when my finger starts to hurt, I wrap it in medical tape so I can keep knitting. The lesson here: I need to actually switch to continental knitting.

Before I started scar therapy, I didn’t know how exhausting it would be. I’m not even talking about the months spent doing scar desensitization. I mean, I go and she massages my scars and I talk about anything I can think of to distract myself from the pain and then go home and take a nap.

I use to avoid calling myself disabled because I didn’t feel I qualified. I wasn’t “disabled enough” even to myself. However, in learning to embrace my disability I am able to more accurately describe my life, work with my community and learn ways to not just have a disability but live with one.

I get that. It was more someone asked my friend if we were dating during a planning meeting because she had the same ideas as me. We both (separately) were like, no but I wish. Also, we have the same ideas on things because we talk about them a lot.

Thanks. I ran away early this week because a cat themed variety show was starting and suddenly there were way too many people. Maybe next week. We did determine which Doctor was being shown on the tv and just how queer old Doctor Who is in so many ways.

Sadly, I have no game but I will flirt with the cute person at the Haunted They Bar from now until forever.

Is it really a queer best friendship without being accused of dating?

The Actor Jason Kimmel · The Actor · Song · 2025

This has been getting stuck in my head. I use to be obsessed with HIMYM:

One of my deepest darkest dreams is that my legal name become Dr. Bex A. Merhar

My boots are way too cool for me seeing as I am reading the Wikipedia page for the history of the Ph.D and M.D. and finding it fascinating. New research rabbit hole!

If so, I definitely gave Stoick too long a name.

I have been slowly trying to learn ASL, and this thought came into my head tonight. If you can only get a name sign from someone who is deaf, would someone learning sign their whole pet’s name every time or do they get a name sign too? If so, does the pet have to also get it from a deaf person?

I did a lot today in organizing and getting shit done. My friend came by to vacuum and help with the dishes and the room looks so much better. I rotated my desk a week ago and I am actually really enjoying it now.

We are called Massholes for a reason and in the history of Boston we have had so many riots. The T literally catches on fire on a regular basis and people just make time for that in their commute. We may hate everyone but also, they are our people and we will defend them. I’m proud to be from Boston

Bostontok is amazing and hilarious right now as people point out the stupidity of the Border Czar coming to a city that teaches its children in 3rd grade to throw tea in the harbor. Where people walk in flip flops in the snow to Dunks. Where moving a space saver is risking your life.

Does anyone else feel like they are speeding running the end of America as well as killing as many of its citizens as possible or is it just me? If we are all dead, who will make them money?

Mmmm Shepherd cookies. I’m going to the Body Farm at the University of Tennessee Knoxville.

That’s so exciting!!! I can’t wait.

I do. That’s how I realized I missed yesterday.

Any more Paladin books soon? I am so curious what happens next.

I wake up in pain today which was my normal before starting Low Dose Naltrexone and discover that I did not take it yesterday and possibly the day before. The rest of my meds are packed by the pharmacy (which I highly recommend), but since the LDN comes from another pharmacy it isn’t packed.