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writer of YA and more. they/them. ๐ŸŒˆWORST-CASE SCENARIO out 1.20.26! ๐ŸŒˆBETWEEN PERFECT AND REAL, ARDEN GREY, and THE SUMMER LOVE STRATEGY out now! linktr.ee/rayrowanjames

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I think itโ€™s an (understandable!) error to frame the way bigots talk about trans people as โ€œinvalidatingโ€ or as thinking weโ€™re โ€œnot realโ€

They know we exist! The point is that they want to exterminate us, in whatever ways they can, because theyโ€™re seeking a world where thatโ€™s no longer the case

18.12.2025 17:30 ๐Ÿ‘ 61 ๐Ÿ” 17 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

A weirdly positive side effect of living in this fascist hellscape is that I have been reading a lot more and I think it is actually helping me stay sane right now. And fueling my writing, which also helps me stay sane. Sooooโ€ฆyeah. Thereโ€™s that, I guess.

18.12.2025 17:32 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Iโ€™m reading Kushielโ€™s Dart for the first time and Joscelin has entered the chatโ€ฆโ€ฆI see this will be an enemies to lovers arc and I canโ€™t WAIT

But also, Guy ๐Ÿ˜ญ

17.12.2025 20:05 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

PROPUBLICA???!!!!! I am flabbergasted

17.12.2025 20:03 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Something I wish we were currently better at grasping is that sometimes bad characters will do bad things. Not every villain has to be a rapist who eats baked babies, but they will be racists, bigots, assholes, and violent bastards you want to see lose. That doesn't mean I, the author, agree.

16.12.2025 20:53 ๐Ÿ‘ 735 ๐Ÿ” 96 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 20 ๐Ÿ“Œ 4

Still thinking about this and coming back to another line in the piece which is that it hasnโ€™t even led to efficiency โ€” so what is even the point, then?? Youโ€™re taking a reputational and creative L for literally no reason!

16.12.2025 21:23 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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The Fetch Speaks by western hemlock Your friend has something to tell you.

If you like interactive fiction I just published this short piece based on the fetch (no relation to Mean Girls), a figure in Irish folklore, with a trans spin on it. Iโ€™ve been getting into video game writing & narrative design and this is the first attempt Iโ€™m sharing. Iโ€™m quite proud of it!

15.08.2025 23:35 ๐Ÿ‘ 3 ๐Ÿ” 1 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Baldurโ€™s Gate 3 literally made me a gamer. I did not play video games before that game. I was so looking forward to another one from Larian, but nowโ€ฆ

Beyond disappointed. Especially as an author who has had their work stolen to train genAI.

16.12.2025 18:30 ๐Ÿ‘ 3 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Whaaaat NOOOO!!!! Thatโ€™s so upsetting.

16.12.2025 18:24 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Primary them all and block anybody who comes with the โ€œat this crucial juncture the most important thing is that we win.โ€ if they believed that they wouldnโ€™t do this and with friends like them nobody needs enemies

16.12.2025 03:12 ๐Ÿ‘ 3499 ๐Ÿ” 989 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 39 ๐Ÿ“Œ 12
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Worst-Case Scenario

In recent author life news, WORST-CASE SCENARIO got a starred review from School Library Journal!

They loved my portrayal of OCD and of diverse teens with full, rich lives and romance in the midst of mental health struggles ๐Ÿฅฐ

And called the book a โ€œsafe environmentโ€ ๐Ÿฅน

13.12.2025 02:20 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Right there with you! Or when they twist what you say into something they can be mad about. BYE

12.12.2025 21:47 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Iโ€™ll be talking to my agent today about this and I suggest all authors in tradpub do the same. We can play a role in helping our publishers fight this.

12.12.2025 17:57 ๐Ÿ‘ 5 ๐Ÿ” 1 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I always wonder with stuff like this why publishers arenโ€™t justโ€ฆhonest. Like, why not just say โ€œHey yโ€™all, most book printers are overseas and backed up but we are working as hard as we can to get you more copies of this book.โ€

The industry is allergic to transparency to a self-defeating degree.

12.12.2025 07:06 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

My cat loves sleeping on my lap and I can always feel the moment that she really falls asleep because the full weight of her head relaxes onto my leg and itโ€™s the best feeling in the entire world ๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน

12.12.2025 07:03 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

LETโ€™S GOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Ready to pledge more years of my life to another Larian game!!!!!!

12.12.2025 06:00 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Bluesky feels like the only social platform left that isnโ€™t a hellscape of ads with a soul-crushingly opaque algorithm and never ending circular rage bait discourse. Itโ€™s nice here. Peaceful. I could get used to thisโ€ฆ

11.12.2025 04:53 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Oh my god so THATโ€™S how books are using Taylor Swift lyrics as titles without getting sued into the ground!!! I HAD NO IDEA

11.12.2025 04:49 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I am once again asking for the ability to toggle off seeing other peopleโ€™s reposts in my feed without having to mute the individual.

10.12.2025 07:11 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

my holy bible

09.12.2025 21:02 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I'm running for president on the platform that anyone who writes a review of a YA book and says something to the effect of "it reads young" is forever banned off the internet.

09.12.2025 17:39 ๐Ÿ‘ 38 ๐Ÿ” 3 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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The queer and trans songs we loved in 2025 | Xtra Magazine From Amaarae to Rosalรญa to Ezra Furman, hereโ€™s what we had on repeat this year

Got to add my pick, โ€œKFC Santerรญaโ€ by Cain Culto, to this list for @xtramagazine.com! One of my favorite things about that song is the fact he sampled a squeaky chair for the beat ๐Ÿช‘

09.12.2025 18:14 ๐Ÿ‘ 5 ๐Ÿ” 1 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Gonna go even further: don't refer to it as "consuming media" when doing this. You aren't a consumer - it's not a product. You read books. You look at art. You watch movies and/or videos. Be careful about word choice.

Reject "consume" and REJECT "CONTENT."
IT IS ART.
YOU ARE ENGAGING WITH ART.

22.09.2025 02:59 ๐Ÿ‘ 3561 ๐Ÿ” 1760 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 38 ๐Ÿ“Œ 27
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Ray Stoeveโ€™s Newsletter YA author Ray Stoeve shares monthly spotlights of trans YA & MG books, updates on their own books and writer life, culture recommendations and advocacy opportunities.

๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™ Iโ€™m doing a #BiWeek giveaway in honor of Talia, a bi autistic trans girl and bestie to Hayley in my YA romcom THE SUMMER LOVE STRATEGY! One winner gets a signed personalized HC copy of TSLS.

TO ENTER:
Subscribe to my newsletter!

US only, open til 11:59pm 9/23. More deets on my IG ๐Ÿ‘€

22.09.2025 22:08 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

You started with saying youโ€™re โ€œgenuinely curiousโ€ but the rest of your reply indicates you actually arenโ€™t, so I wonโ€™t be engaging further. Have a nice day!

31.08.2025 02:02 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

The โ€œfirst trans YAโ€ I talked abt last time actually WASNโ€™T the first! How do we decide who is โ€œfirstโ€ in trans YA, anyway? Today Iโ€™m talking abt those elusive milestones, how we decide what qualifies, and what we learn when we ask that question.

29.08.2025 21:28 ๐Ÿ‘ 5 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Oooh havenโ€™t heard of this one! Sounds perfect, thank you! The environmental Easter eggs is something I love abt BG3.

17.08.2025 21:37 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Alsoโ€ฆnow what lmfao?! I followed BG3 with E33 and the bar is SO high for what my third ever video game will be ๐Ÿ˜‚ taking recommendations! Story & world-building is most important to me, followed by exploration & accessible combat. And thereโ€™s gotta be an easy mode (I played E33 on story mode).

17.08.2025 19:15 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I finished Expedition 33 two days ago and Iโ€™m still thinking about that final choice. Absolutely brilliant writing and follow through on a theme until the very end. Iโ€™ve been learning a lot about what makes a meaningful choice in a video game and that one was a perfect example.

17.08.2025 19:09 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0