Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Coach

Being weird together If you just show up and go, “This is me, and I’m weird in this particular way and that’s a great thing.” And they’re like, “Great! I’m weird too, in this oth...

Being weird together

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AuDHDers: tired of burning out trying to make self-employment work?

A lot of solopreneur advice assumes people work in the same way, but Autistic and AuDHD founders have totally different strengths and challenges.

I'm launching a new course soon: Work for Yourself Without Burning Out

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The story we've been told about autism is incomplete. 💙 I'm available for media appearances and interviews to talk about what autism actually looks like in adults — and what a world that genuinely includes and values autistic people could look like. Let's have a real conversation.
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I can still be completely honest and entirely myself, and also notice how I come across to others, what will affect them, and what they need to be okay right now.

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My hang-up is because I don’t actually feel like I need my writing and videos to be “just right”. Where I get stuck is closer to a feeling that if I don’t say exactly what I mean, people will misunderstand me, and therefore something bad will happen.

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Is It Perfectionism? I've been reflecting on my relationship with perfectionism, and if that's even the best word for what I experience.

There are some aspects of perfectionism that definitely relate to my own experiences, but since there are some that don’t, I keep pondering whether I’m really a perfectionist or not.

I’ve been thinking lately about my own relationship with perfectionism, especially in relation to writing articles and making videos. 1/3

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Being weird together If you just show up and go, “This is me, and I’m weird in this particular way and that’s a great thing.” And they’re like, “Great! I’m weird too, in this oth...

Being weird together

www.youtube.com/watch?v=tK3u...

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Which basically means that, if that is the case (and it’s not always the case, of course), most of the world is being supported by someone else. Which by definition means it’s okay and normal to get support. To not be able to do it all on your own.

Within the traditional family values framework, generally one person works and one person takes care of all of the domestic duties. 1/2

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Or we believe that lie ourselves, and we blame ourselves for not “making better choices”.

Many aspects of our lives are shaped by strong social pressures, happenstance, luck, and (mis)fortune, that don’t necessarily reflect our actual preferences, yet it’s common that other people assume that’s what we wanted. 1/2

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AuDHDers WORK FOR YOURSELF WITHOUT BURNING OUT Don't miss the course start! Help your future self by getting the details delivered as soon as enrollment opens. No executive function required. :)

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AuDHDers WORK FOR YOURSELF WITHOUT BURNING OUT Don't miss the course start! Help your future self by getting the details delivered as soon as enrollment opens. No executive function required. :)

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You'll learn:
→ Executive function hacks (to take the load off)
→ Marketing (when you don't want to be perceived)
→ Pricing (when you hate talking about money)

→ Scheduling (within your current capacity)

→ Client boundaries and communication
→ Creating your sensory-friendly workspace
And more.

AuDHDers: tired of burning out trying to make self-employment work?

A lot of solopreneur advice assumes people work in the same way, but Autistic and AuDHD founders have totally different strengths and challenges.

I'm launching a new course soon: Work for Yourself Without Burning Out

1/3 #AuDHD

Getting out of burnout isn’t just getting some energy, getting a little motivation and then doing stuff the same way again. It’s doing things in a different way, so that you don’t go into burnout again.

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Why NOT Get the Worst Over With First

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You deserve to have the capacity for having a life, for being able to engage with special interests, with friends, with family, with activities, with just resting, with whatever it is that makes you come alive.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity

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Labeling it "not a big deal" was a way for them to get off the hook of having to deal with what was really going on.

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“This isn’t a big deal” is an excuse “You shouldn't be upset about any of this.” “It's not a big deal.” “Other people have real problems.” That is not only invalidating, it is a way for them to get off the hook for having to deal with…

When I was a kid and complained the ice cream was cold, they laughed at me. When I fought my mom putting on tights, she would get exasperated. When I "went into a sulk" over a change of plans, they said it wasn't a big deal and I should just get over it.

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Speaking & Interviews Speaking and interviews And group and organizational training. Speaking and interviews I am available for media appearances and interviews to champion the full…

April is coming — and so is an important conversation. The narrative around autism is changing — and I want to be part of that conversation. I'm available for media appearances and interviews.
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So things tend to be sorted into an all or a nothing, especially when I’m stressed. And one of my biggest revelations was, it’s not all or nothing.

My brain finds that it’s hard to predict a lot of the world and a lot of people. And so I tend to find comfort in trying to make things into absolutes. 1/2

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“This isn’t a big deal” is an excuse “You shouldn't be upset about any of this.”“It's not a big deal.” “Other people have real problems.”That is not only invalidating, it is a way for them to ge...

“This isn’t a big deal” is an excuse

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Speaking & Interviews Speaking and interviews And group and organizational training. Speaking and interviews I am available for media appearances and interviews to champion the full…

April is Autism Awareness Month — is your coaching organization looking for a presenter? I offer a presentation on working with adult autistic coaching clients that your members will actually find useful. Let's talk! 🦋

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Many Autistics and many ADHDers need more rest for our nervous systems to be able to process the sensory information that we’re taking in, the social information we’re taking in, to be able to regulate, and to really actually feel rested.

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Your childhood is still affecting you Of course stuff from your childhood is still affecting you, that was when you learned what did and did not feel safe. ** 🟢 Want neuro-affirming insights like this by email every other week? Join…

I spent years feeling like my body was overreacting to things others brushed off.
It made more sense when I realised most of my rules about what is and is not 'safe' were written in childhood. Of course that stuff is still affecting you. That is when you learned what safe felt like.

Sometimes it might be difficult to figure out whether it’s actually a negative thought or the practicalities of the situation, especially as some of these negative thoughts feel really true, and you’re so used to thinking them that it’s hard to tell.

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When Someone Interrupts Your Alone Time

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Your childhood is still affecting you Of course stuff from your childhood is still affecting you, that was when you learned what did and did not feel safe.**🟢 Want neuro-affirming insights like ...

Your childhood is still affecting you

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