The Grey Rainbow

Thank you

Thank you. I've loved writing about ace stuff and sad to have to give it up.

I will no longer update this BlueSky account. Unlikely I'll ever write a post for the blog again.

ICYMI, I have terminal cancer and wish to use whatever writing time I have left for my fiction.

I write mixed genre horror and fantasy.

Follow me over at @chaoticauthor.online

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Today begins Asexual Awareness Week, my favorite week. Finding out I'm asexual was a godsend. When I discovered I'm asexual at age 26, I finally felt like the puzzle pieces fit together. The Ace community helped give me the words to understand myself. I'm forever grateful to the Ace Community!

So important!

We all get along better when we understand and empathize with the complexity of humans versus trying to shove people in little boxes they don’t fit in.

For #aceweek, I would like people to know that demisexuals are ace-spec. I have only liked two people (that I knew for two years before attraction started) in my entire life. Outside of that, I don't really get attraction and have always felt out of place. Why shouldn't I count as ace then?

I'm demi myself and been told my standards are too high for such an average guy. Like... that's not what it's about?

When I was last single, the women I dated were a range of ages and body shapes and sizes.

I was open to anyone who seemed like they were interesting and reasonably intelligent.

Naturally. I've written a few (fairly decent, I feel) sex scenes in some of my books. The main reason I don't do it more often is usually because I want to centre other types of relationship, definitely not because I am against them.

Oh, and prudish too. That's an accusation not exclusively reserved for women. Me not liking strip clubs (when my overall feeling towards them isn't dislike, but confusion that this is a thing people can enjoy) was seen as being a prude

Definitely. Many allos presume that only women can be ace, as demonstrated by a post I saw on Instagram a while back. "Isn't acephobia just misogyny by another name?" Not the first and it won't be the last.

We're that invisible.

presumes our consent by default. "Men always want it!" "They won't ever say no!"

So any man who says "no" is seen as faulty. He is mistrusted. He is shallow or secretly gay. If we're partnered, the knee jerk reaction is "he's getting it elsewhere"

Sex ed NEEDS ace views of all genders 2/2

#AceWeek

Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel.

Society 1/2

Hear, hear.

Hey it’s #AceWeek! 🖤🩶🤍💜

More people should realize that asexual advocacy isn’t just “people trying so hard to be oppressed becauss they’re loudly single.”

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For those who don't follow my main account... 🧵

TL;DR version is that I was hospitalised on Monday with suspected appendicitis. But I have cancer of the pancreas

For almost 25 years, AVEN has been working to help ace and aro people across the globe understand themselves and promote open, honest public understanding of our experience. In that time we've had a tremendous impact, and we're asking for your support to fund the next two years of our work.

How many more generations will be denied Black queer history before we take action? When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school

When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school

https://www.wearequeeraf.com/how-many-more-generations-will-be-denied-black-queer-history-before-we-take-action/

Interview with the Vampire and Asexual Loneliness “I can tell you about it, enclose it with words that will make the value of it to me evident to you. But I can’t tell you exactly, any more than I could tell you exactly what is the exp…

At long last, here is my take on Interview with the Vampire, queer time, and the existential horrors of asexual yearning. It also happens to be my 50th blog post (though it’s become a full-length essay)!
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worrydollsandfloatinglights.wordpress.com/2025/10/01/i...

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I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda.

This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release...

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My poetry and essay collection is out today!

Check out the buying links...

I think to these people it's just a cheap insult to meaninglessly throw at anyone they disagree with or dislike.

Asexual men challenge the gendered narrative of how men are supposed to act in the pursuit of romance and sex. And rather than unpacking it, they lash out.

Eep! I have a new book out tomorrow 😍

This one is available wide from the start. Will also be available on Ko-Fi and Itch.

Asexuality is a spectrum that answered a lifetime of questions Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction

Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction

https://www.wearequeeraf.com/asexuality-is-a-spectrum-that-answered-a-lifetime-of-questions/

Thanks Ell!

Love this!

And wow I resonate deeply with that last takeaway about punishing self for crushes even if they’re queerplatonic, about wanting closeness with friends in a world that reduces and restricts what affection is allowed.

Thanks for sharing! Keeping an eye out for when this book comes out!

AD| Review of Being Demi by MG Mason - A Spiral Dance Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda.

This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release...

🌈🖊️💻

aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/

"How do I feel pride in my asexuality when it's only created struggles?" Pride can contain all of queerness's complexity.

Being proud of your aspec identity can take a number of different forms.

Freedom of information request uncovers gender critical bias within EHRC A new investigation has revealed significant lobbying efforts by gender critical groups.

A new investigation has revealed significant lobbying efforts by gender critical groups.

https://www.wearequeeraf.com/freedom-of-information-request-uncovers-gender-critical-bias-within-ehrc/

most important thing about it, not the fact that his name is mentioned.

Nevertheless, I will come up with another article to replace that one with in my upcoming essay and poetry collection "Being Demi".

Charlie Kirk’s Definition of Masculinity is Everything That’s Wrong With It Charlie Kirk was recently in Britain and given free reign to spout whatever nonsense came into his head.

My article criticising Charlie Kirk's narrow definition of masculinity got 100 views overnight (I wrote it following his debates with Oxford and Cambridge students).

The reason why the article is now popular is unfortunate, because the subject (harmful social expectations placed on men) is the 1/2