Ferns

Waiting He stands in position, his hands clasped behind his head, his feet shoulder width apart. He stretches his body, pulls his navel towards his spine, holds his muscles taut, his abs, his biceps, his thighs all slightly flexed, he knows she likes that. And he waits. He concentrates on keeping still, quelling his urge to shift, [...]

From the past: Waiting

A trip to the fetish shop The other day, I went to a fetish shop. I had bought a flogger from them some time ago, and it had a flaw. I wanted them to repair or replace it, but hadn’t gotten around to going there to talk to them about it yet. When I walked in, there was one other customer in the bright cheery shop, [...]

From the past: A trip to the fetish shop

Wrangling your bald/short haired submissive [Beautiful creativity by the super talented Submissive Guy Comics for our NaBloWriMo project].   When you have a submissive who doesn’t have hair long enough to grab and use to shove him around, you may have to get a bit more creative *smile*. More ideas for shoving him around:  A thumb or fingers in his mouth, hook around his lower teeth, [...]

From the past: Wrangling your bald/short haired submissive

Sunday curiosity: Survey 2011 Results part I A huge thank you (again!) to everyone who participated in my recent survey. There were around 250 respondents (wow!). That’s a considerable increase over last year (see, if I had done a graph, that would have been a much more interesting factlet!). My blog has changed quite a bit in the last year, as have my circumstances, [...]

From the past: Sunday curiosity: Survey 2011 Results part I

Share Our Shit Saturday #1 #SOSS Okay fine, it’s Sunday here, but I live in the future, so it’s still Saturday in many many places! In case you missed it, this meme is a reaction to social media platforms silencing creators of adult content.  I’m going to be making a more concerted effort to share talented and interesting people’s work, and at times I’m going to step out of the F/m domain for it because the impact of making sex bloggers and writers invisible is wide. So I’ll be #soss-ing all over the twitter and probably doing some cheaty ‘Share Our Shit SomeOtherDay’ [...]

From the past: Share Our Shit Saturday #1 #SOSS

Audio porn: Men moaning I love the sound of a man experiencing sexual pleasure. Not coming, necessarily, though I like that also, but all the sounds that lead up to that point. Oh yes please. I used to have my last submissive send me audio porn *all the time*. It was like an obsession for me. I loved it so much. [...]

From the past: Audio porn: Men moaning

Q&A – Protocol Continuing my experiment with Q&A from Fetlife discussions… 1. Is protocol an integral part of your kink, and if so, are your protocols more physical (kneeling, posture,etc) or verbal (use of titles, granting permission to speak) I have a mixture of both, they are pretty light and they are at my whim. 2. Does protocol to you mean specific ritual actions and phrases that are for play only, [...]

From the past: Q&A – Protocol

Song of women I was looking for an entirely different song about women that I wanted to post, but I stumbled across this, and it’s mesmerising.  It’s been watched by 1.6m people so I am, as always, behind the curve. The Hu are a Mongolian band, and this collaboration with Lzzy Hale is just beautiful. I started wars I’ve given peace I’m your lover I’m your mother I’m your sister I’m your daughter When Kings fall to their knees they sing a woman’s song…   [...]

From the past: Song of women

Romancing the Domme To me, romance is doing something sweet to show someone that you are thinking of them, something to make them happy, to make them feel special. It’s the little gestures that demonstrate that feeling.  Following on from a really lively Twitter conversation a while back, Mistress Lilyana has written a really interesting post on ‘Romantic shit‘. [...]

From the past: Romancing the Domme

Yogacam The agreement is clearly laid out:  He will get on cam and do half an hour of yoga. He will do it shirtless. We will not speak beforehand. I will initiate the call at the agreed time. He will turn the webcam on, I will verify by IM that I can see, and he will begin. He is to pretend I am not watching. [...]

From the past: Yogacam

On women in the world I don’t write about social or political issues in this blog, or on twitter, or on my tumblr. Not because I don’t have views or opinions, but because this is not a place where I want to discuss them. If I wanted to have those discussions, I’d create a space for them.  I also don’t do it because I don’t have the wherewithal to be angry all the time, [...]

From the past: On women in the world

Introduction… I shall call him richie. We have caught up three, maybe four times in the last few months. We eat, we drink, we talk. We have spent quite a few hours together, we get along well, but we are not a romantic relationship match. He is a pretty boy, who thinks he is not. He doesn’t look in the mirror and see who he is, [...]

From the past: Introduction…

I love you | Now I don’t One of the reasons I balk at saying ‘I love you’ is because when it’s not true any more, it’s as if I lied. There is some sappy ‘love is forever’ behind that thought. Even though I’m not sappy. I’m reading the writings of a woman who was in love with a man who said he loved her. [...]

From the past: I love you | Now I don’t

Interview Q&A  Hello Ferns …I am writing simply to inquire if you might have a free moment to answer a few quick questions related to your work with Domme Chronicles. I am in the latter stages of putting together a textbook of sorts for journalism students that presents advice from current journalists and bloggers about various aspects of the craft, [...]

From the past: Interview Q&A

Foot fetishists, come talk to me I was randomly sending foot photos that I found while I was trawling for porn doing important research to a friend of mine. He has a foot fetish, I thought he might like them. Each time, he came back with a shrug and some comment like, “Too much man-hand, not enough woman-foot!” My lack of understanding of good foot porn finally had him shaking his head and remarking:  [...]

From the past: Foot fetishists, come talk to me

For the IT geeks… (because no-one else will think this is funny…)   [...]

From the past: For the IT geeks…

Moo, motherfucker – part II ! *laugh* OMG, really?!!!  Seriously, is this a ‘thing’ now? I sooo hope it’s a thing. That thought makes me stupidly happy!  [...]

From the past: Moo, motherfucker – part II !

Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing? Yes, of course introvert Dommes are a thing! Also shy Dommes, socially awkward Dommes, anxious Dommes, quiet Dommes, depressed Dommes etc. Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t contingent on being a certain type of person. On either side of the slash. I am introverted, very. I think people often use ‘introverted’ when they mean some of the things I mentioned above. But that’s not what I mean by ‘introverted’. For me, [...]

From the past: Are ‘introvert Dommes’ a thing?

First meeting and onwards My First and I met in a BDSM chat room, on IRC. I can’t remember the details. What I remember is that we were attracted to each other, got chatting, emailing, talking, we exchanged photos. There was definitely something there. He was some 6 years younger at 25, lived about 900kms away, had just finished his masters. [...]

From the past: First meeting and onwards

Men in kilts He is wearing a flirty leather mini-kilt, a white shirt and patent black Doc Martins. I watch him from across the space as he flogs a woman tied to a cross, his skirt flicking up in the most gorgeous manner. He has strong, shapely legs and the most amazing flogging style… almost taking running start, putting his whole body into it, [...]

From the past: Men in kilts

e[lust] #31 Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #32 ? Start with the rules, come back in January to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ [...]

From the past: e[lust] #31

Post weekend date I talked about our really lovely weekend date: I was keen to make it clear how well it went so you could better understand what followed.  So what happened next? He wrote me an incredibly sweet and flattering thank you note the day after he got home.  “…there is a whole dimension between the conceptualised and the actual of someone but I only found reality better than I had thought. [...]

From the past: Post weekend date

I call him ‘puppy’ [SubmissiveGuyComics has also done a ‘puppy‘ post for our NaBloWriMo project]   “Do you know how long we have known each other? I don’t know either, but it’s over 6 years. SIX YEARS!” I messaged him on CollarMe so long ago, a cold call. He was very active on the forums: smart and funny, and an incorrigible flirt. [...]

From the past: I call him ‘puppy’

My sent emails LII My response to yet another ridiculous email in my inbox. Nowhere near me: Check! Claims to be moving here: Check! Fake photo: Check!

From the past: My sent emails LII

First lesbian love My first love was a woman, well, a girl really. I was 17, she was a year ahead of me at school. She was fun and hilarious and street-smart in a way I wasn’t. An athlete, with that long-limbed lithe body that young athletes have. Full of that kind of careless body confidence that comes from knowing what those limbs and muscles are capable of, [...]

From the past: First lesbian love

Breasts “… women are more likely to watch a video if it features a hot guy…” Oh, come on… what sort of shallow, superficial people do you think we… oh… um… shhhhh… watching…    [...]

From the past: Breasts

Thank you, baby, for crying When you’re down and confusedNothing seems rightAnd it’s you who decidesWho’s going to make it right Baby don’t cry… https://youtu.be/HvSMtTvjvwY What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!  [...]

From the past: Thank you, baby, for crying

It was worth all the while So take the photographs, and still frames in your mindHang it on a shelf in good health and good timeTattoos of memories and dead skin on trialFor what it’s worth it was worth all the while … I hope you had the time of your life.   What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!  [...]

From the past: It was worth all the while

Prey It is in the way you surrender, a quiet, unspoken, gentle offering of yourself, inevitable, unquestioning. It is in the way you bow your head and wait, even without experience, you know, like you have seen inside my head, you understand exactly how to elicit that aggressive response from me, to raise that hunger that you love. [...]

From the past: Prey

Birthday Nude: Touching My dedication to the time-honoured tradition of the birthday nude is unparalleled. The camera on my phone is no longer working and I’m in the middle of move-planning, and yet here I am in all my naked glory.  Happy birthday to me! For my birthday, you can say lovely things to me so I feel fabulous about being another year older. [...]

From the past: Birthday Nude: Touching