SophicSiren

@dagmarian.bsky.social
@geekwithabook.bsky.social

Is GB our Rose? She's got the lovable vibes and great stories 😄

Skydiver guy found a cool bar where we can meet for drinks and get a charc board AND the place has a gluten free option for the charc board!!

I love it when a man takes date night decision making off my plate

I'm blown away when a man thinks to check for gluten free options so I don't have to

Hey @geekwithabook.bsky.social you wanna be our Sophia? You've got that brilliantly snarky no filter thing going!

I don't necessarily consider lack of a hell yes problematic

Depending on context

I went into D/s very cautiously and struggled to consent to obedience... but once I did my consent was genuine and complete

CNC was a whole other thing, that came later in an owned free use kind of way

TIL Blanche was 53 in season 1 so now that I'm 53 it's clearly time for my Blanche era

Had anyone seen the movie Babygirl?

Where is it on a scale of informed mutual consent to Fifty Shades?

I have sorted out that you don't exchange porn preferences before exchanging checklists

What base is exchanging porn preferences?

Had anyone seen the movie Babygirl?

Where is it on a scale of informed mutual consent to Fifty Shades?

TIL Blanche was 53 in season 1 so now that I'm 53 it's clearly time for my Blanche era

"Don't make 'em all straight. Some of 'em have little kinks in 'em. Just like people."
Bob Ross (somewhere in season ten)

Well, ain't that the truth! 😅

First date with Skydiver Guy is this weekend but we're having such a good time chatting every day we just scheduled our second date too

So that seems promising

Today he tested the Dommy instruction waters via text and I ended up biting my lip and complying so I'm optimistic

Skydiver guy just dropped an experimental good girl to test the water and I'm biting my lip and smiling so that seems promising

I knew skydiver guy was in great shape in theory because he lifts 5x a week and plays hurling and does all the physical work involved in skydiving

He sent me a selfie so I now know he can rock a tight shirt better than men half his age

First date this weekend

Truly looking forward to this one

I've been told that my intensity is "too much".

It hurts to hear that.

It makes someone feel "wrong"; like you're broken.

I have felt broken in so many ways.

But I'm not.

Am I "too much" or are you just not enough?

I deactivated my fet profile almost 10 years ago because I was getting bombarded with aggressively predatory DMs even though at the time my profile said I was collared and owned and not open to talking to anyone. It was messing with my mental health, made me feel unsafe, so I left the platform.

I absolutely refuse to talk to anyone vanilla, so for me it's always a question of how I feel about the potential connection and when to share the list

Is there another kind of checklist? I'm absolutely referring to kink.

I only date kinky folks. Way too old to put up with vanilla sex!

Genuine question...

At what point do you exchange checklists with someone new?

I don't bring it up if I'm pretty sure there won't be chemistry

I volunteer it if ongoing conversations suggest we will

I see it as a filter... no overlap, no need to meet

Do you share before or after you meet?

Y'all I saw Lucy Darling in Chicago last night and it was sincerely one of THE BEST shows I have ever seen! I was laughing so hard I couldn't breathe, just an incredibly great time!

@carisahendrix.bsky.social is brilliant and you need to see her live

#LucyDarling #OhNoo

More green flags...

Skydiver guy volunteered his recent STI screening info, current partners, and assured me he always uses condoms

Not that we're making any assumptions things will get that far, but the fact I didn't have to ask is huge

Oh and it turns out we have friends in common!

AI is to blame for this, at least on some platforms

They started feeding autocorrect from AI rather than the original engines

Google did this by feeding it content stolen from people's Google Docs... which are full of errors

So now things are autocorrecting to the most common errors

I'm a professional writer who is friends with a good number of published authors, I'm painfully aware of this. AI destroyed my career and I reject it every chance I get. I have several real live narrators I'm a big fan of, and actively search for books I know real life professionals worked on.

Y'all skydiver guy just volunteered his full name and told me how to look up criminal records in Wisconsin so I can confirm he's safe to meet

His day job is working with SA survivors as a clinical therapist, so it tracks he'd be proactive about this kind of thing

Greenest green flag ever

Oh my gods y'all how did it take me this long to realize that there's going to be a Heated Rivalry fan fics 😍

That might be what it takes get me off my #hermionehasapraisekink obsession

Skydiver guy has a solid meme game and this morning he sent me a Muppet video

He's definitely ticking off a lot of boxes on the date me bingo card

Guys if Kristi Noem loses her job yesterday I'm gonna buy myself a bunch of new books

I'm extremely aware of that, I'm a professional writer who is vehemently anti AI and I have several voice actors that I'm active fans of and buy any books they work on

I didn't ask your opinion. I simply pointed out that there are some great books by real writers and real narrators on sale.

Yep. Unfortunate, but I have been unable to find the books I want with the narrators I want on any other platform.

I use library apps when I can, but the selection and narrators have been consistently disappointing to me.