Ruby Tuesday

Why does Kansas persist in...
well...
being Kansas?

In 1998, there was a three year old girl who discovered that she felt comfier in girl’s pajamas than the boy’s pajamas her parents bought her. It’d be 15 years before she realized she was a girl, and 25 years before she began her transition.

It shouldn’t take this long.

Happy Valentine's day to my relentlessly queer family:
@2ells2tees.bsky.social,
@beigealert.bsky.social, and kiddo who is not on bsky.

Definitely an earbud.
I take you with me on the train all the time.

Blåhaj?

...and I can't math. It was 36 years.

Although there were many times that her egg cracked enough to leak a bit, it was 30 years before she hatched and started to transition.

It should never take this long.

In 1984, there was a lonely 10 year old girl who met the first girl who was ever interested in spending time with her. She felt comfortable and accepted. She thought she might be in love.

She grew up knowing that girls could be anything (except amab). "Love" made more sense than "gender envy.”

Every now and then, I know you'll never be the boy
You always wanted to be

But every now and then, I know you'll always be the only boy
Who wanted me the way that I am

"Total Eclipse of the Heart” by Bonnie Tyler, written by Jim Steinman

This feels like it's about my husband.

Favorite pic of 2025

Way back in March, about 10 minutes before I told my friend Kelly about my new girlfriend.

It's been amazing spending what time we can together @beigealert.bsky.social

Over 30 selfie thread.

I'm 51, on HRT for 4.5 years and I've never been happier.

There is still time.

The movie that was #1 when you turned 10 years old is how your 2026 will go...

I just don't know.

Ghostbusters, August 1984.

My girlfriend's unofficial city flag is much better than the official one, but it hasn't had many derivative versions made (yet). So she doesn't have a trans version of her city flag like I do.

I didn't see this coming either.
I want you in my life, as close as possible.
That you fit so well into my family unit is amazing.

I am thankful for my queer community:
For the women who gave me hope that I was possible.
For those who believe in me even when I don't.
For friends around the world that remind me daily that we are amazing, messy, loving, ordinary people.

I am thankful for my relentlessly queer family:
For my husband and teen who knew to give me space to pull off today's feast.
For my girlfriend who I will celebrate with soon.
For my family of origin, less queer, and less local, but allies.

Second, for too many in my community this is a difficult day. We are too often rejected or expelled from our families of origin for being ourselves. We often lose families we have formed as adults for the same reason. Many of us are asked to hide who we are from family during these festivities.

It's Friday here, and maybe sleep would be a better choice than posting on the socials.

First, I have to acknowledge the genocidal nature of this holiday. The myth of this holiday would be disgusting enough if it didn't whitewash the horrors of colonialism. That we are still perpetrating.

My life has been such a whirlwind since I saw you
I've been running 'round in circles in my mind
And it always seems that I'm followin' you, girl
'Cause you take me to the places
That alone I'd never find

"I can't fight this feeling" by REO Speedwagon, written by Kevin Cronin

I am extremely lucky to call this amazing woman my girlfriend.
Her 2019 photo is cuter than mine. (I might be biased).

🫂

I do hope that we...

don't tone it down for anyone.

What class of ship is the USS Jenny?

Damn. And here I thought my inscrutable stoic mask was still working. 😉

Why did you call me out like this? 🙃

No. You. 🙃

I feel your love every time I see you.
And honestly, I think if you didn't model open affection I'd probably be handling how much I love you in a less sustainable manner.

Also, markdown doesn't work (the way I expect it to) here.

Gosh we were pretty silly that day. It was _totally not a date_ :wink:. I didn't want to admit to having caught feelings but I also didn't want to go home.

We've had a lot of days being silly together since.

ty. Someone told me that I'm worth self care and I guess it finally stuck.

Yep.
Caring about myself helps too.