Seeing, monitoring, and judging videos of yourself all day is unnatural and psychologically taxing.
Turn off self-view for all of your Zoom calls. It feels strange at first but you’ll be amazed by how much less exhausted you feel at the end of each day.
Some people feel but need help to understand. Some people understand but need help to feel. Therapy offers help with both.
"Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.”
- Maya Angelou
Today is a fantastic day to be a little less hard on yourself.
The assumptions you make about other people’s intentions will tell you everything about how you’ve been treated in your most vulnerable moments.
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go. - Jamie Anderson
my therapist says I cant
make the monsters disappear
no matter how much I pay her
all she can do is bring them
into the room so I can get
to know them, so I can learn
their names, so I can see
clearly their toothless mouths,
their empty hands, their pleading eyes.
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I don’t feel rested, I need a break...
*takes a break but spends the whole time thinking about how I don’t deserve a break & how I’ll have more work later because I took this stupid break arggghhh-
break over.
I don’t feel rested... 🤔
(don’t let guilt sabotage your time off)
We store our issues in our tissues ✨
Invest in things like yoga, body work, and massage alongside therapy.
The work I do has made me uniquely privy to the fact that everyone is insecure (especially those who say they aren’t) and everyone is making shit up as they go (especially those who seem to have it all figured out).
Give yourself a break from comparing and keep moving forward 💕
Bathroom stall wisdom 🪦
A thing does not have to last forever for it to be worth having or doing.
Ha feel that 🐅
Anxiety: LOOK OUT!!!
Me: OH SHIT FOR WHAT?!
Anxiety: hard to say
When patients share a story they’ve told me before, I don’t stop them and say that I’ve already heard that one.
Instead I assume that I didn’t hear what they needed me to the last time, and try to listen more deeply and with new years.
Try this with parents / friends / kids ✨
Our culture has such an obsession with “learning to be happy” that when we experience any kind of sadness, anger, or overwhelm, we assume something is wrong with us.
Life includes suffering. It always will. Let’s not pathologize normal pain.
Psst... any relationship that can be ruined by a thoughtful conversation about how you feel and what you need doesn’t have long-term stability or potential anyway.
No one’s thinking about that weird thing you said. They’re busy worrying about that weird thing they said that you didn’t notice because you were in your head about that weird thing you said.
The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. - Albert Camus
Do not ask others to be more resilient if what you mean is to suffer more quietly.
It will never work to hate yourself into a better version of who you are.
Believe me, I've watched a lot of people try.
The more loved and accepted you feel exactly as you are, the better you will be at making positive change.
Give it a try.
How to Hit the Gym for your Mental Health
Episode #376 of Something For Everybody is live w/ Dr. Emily Anhalt
Topics Covered:
- Technology in Mental Health
- Misconceptions About Therapy
- Emotional Fitness
Enjoy! 🔗 everybodyspod.com/anhalt/
In any given relationship, the person who cares less has power.
The answer to this isn’t to care less, it’s to trust that when it comes to relationships, vulnerability will get you to beautiful places that power never could.
Did you know there's a treasure chest of hidden wisdom in the things you try hardest to hide? 🏴☠️
In my latest newsletter, I explore the provocative concept of Existential Kink, and share a simple practice for making peace with a taboo part of yourself:
dremilyanhalt.substack.com
I'm Dr. Emily, and I want to help you get emotionally ripped 💪❤️
You're thoughtful about how your treat your body - why not be as dedicated to strengthening your mind?
Excited to connect with others who get it?
Introduce yourself - we all need spotters & cheerleaders in the emotional gym ⬇️
I'm not sure who needs to hear this, but it's completely ok (wise, even) to rest today instead of catching up on work.
Build your life more around what brings you purpose, and less around what soothes your fear.
Flex has been out in the world for just over a week and I am OVERWHELMED with gratitude for this community.
If you're up for writing a review on Amazon or Goodreads, it would absolutely make my day 🥹🥰
Review on Amazon: rb.gy/tde7ae
Review on Goodreads: rb.gy/gzbolq
🚀 IT’S HERE! Flex Your Feelings is officially out in the world today!
I'm so proud of this book, and even more excited to see how it helps people flex their feelings in real life.
Grab a copy today (dremilyanhalt.com/book) and get ready to break an emotional sweat 💪❤️
The simplest and most difficult mental health workout:
Instead of turning away from your pain, turn toward it.
That’s it.
Try a few light reps today 💪❤️
Poem by Nayyirah Waheed ❤️
