George Sudarkoff

Why Smart People Build Systems They Never Use YouTube video by Unleash Your ADHD

Why Smart People Build Systems They Never Use
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80% of adulthood is pretending you’re not sick, “it must be just allergies.”

The other 20% is trying to power through it the next day, hoping it’s just one of those 24-hour bugs.

Table of contents for my book Meditation for ADHD.

The beginning of the Introduction to my book Meditation for ADHD.

I finally figured out what my book is about and cranked out 5,000+ words in a single day! (Yay ADHD hyperfocus!)

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Or you have undiagnosed or untreated adhd.

What do I bring to the table? My expertise as an advisor with 30+ years of tech industry experience across all levels, specialized knowledge coaching high-level leaders with ADHD, and practical application of Behavior Design principles.

Please point folks in my direction and/or reshare. Thank you!

Know any startups tackling ADHD challenges in the workplace? I'm looking for introductions to companies seeking an ally who understands both the technical and neurodiversity landscapes.

Emotional regulation struggles are at the core of all of these.

Have you seen a different way to show up as a leader?

What makes emotional regulation especially important is that it's most visible exactly when it's most difficult. A leader can build executive presence over time with competence and communication, but can lose it in an instant with a single emotional outburst.

- Project confidence even when facing uncertainty (Do you agree with this one?)

- Display appropriate emotional expression (Funny story: I was once told that I don't seem to care enough when I remained completely stoic during a serious production outage. The appropriate expression is somewhere between completely stoic and overly emotional. But probably much closer to stoic.)

When we see someone who exudes executive presence, what stands out is their ability to:

- Respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively

- Remain calm under pressure rather than showing anxiety or frustration

A cartoon character asking “what percentage…”

What percentage of executive presence do you think is just emotional regulation during frustrating, tense, and high-stakes moments?

I'd say it's a substantial part! Maybe 60-70% of what we perceive as "executive presence" comes down to how well someone manages their emotions.

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Bam!

You absolutely should do what you must to protect yourself (eg I won’t travel to my native Russia right now). I just don’t like the world we’re seemingly headed for. And I hope this shrinking and contracting and isolating trend reverses soon.

I totally understand the sentiment, believe me! But I also can’t help but think of this quote:

“Let us build bridges rather than barriers, openness rather than walls.” – MLK

I’d be happy to take a peek and offer advice.

From time to time I run my writing through AI/plagiarism detector and discover… I am AI!

Maybe we do live in a simulation after all!

You sound like you’re pretty unfamiliar with mental illness.

"Was [he promoted] because of his skin color? Or his skill? We’ll never know, but always doubt" is such a wild thing to write, like you are literally just saying "I am a racist"

That sounds like a trauma response. You’re talking to a therapist about this, I’m assuming?

Do you know who owns the media you’re consuming?

“If you're not careful, the newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people who are doing the oppressing.” — Malcolm X

— …whatever you do, don’t read Soviet newspapers before dinner.
— But there aren’t any other papers!
— That’s what I mean, don’t read newspapers.

Bulgakov, The Heart of a Dog

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Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and ADHD: It's More Complex Than You Think Explore the complex relationship between ADHD and emotional regulation, and develop personalized strategies beyond Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).

Who among us ADHDers hasn’t read or seen a short about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and thought, “Oh my gosh, it's me!” It's incredibly validating! But what exactly is RSD, and what can you do about it? (Based on fascinating new research!)

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Tired of team members shutting down every time you point out a problem? Your communication style might be the culprit. Starting with curiosity can change everything! Learn how to communicate effectively without creating defensiveness.

How to Be Direct Without Damaging Relationships at Work

How to Be Direct Without Damaging Relationships at Work Learn how to be direct at work without damaging relationships by leading with curiosity, fostering collaboration, and maintaining authenticity.

Are you accidentally burning bridges at work with your direct communication style? In my latest article, I show a different approach that transformed my leadership. The secret isn't being less direct—it's leading with curiosity before jumping to conclusions.

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The best performers aren’t those who maintain constant focus—they’re the ones who intentionally switch gears and match their mental state to each task and vice versa.

Switching Mental Gears: Mindfulness, Flow, and Mind Wandering

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