Tim-my Eat World 😋🌏🎶

would solve some problems ngl

very cool

bar shelf for bottles?

chicken skewers with flecks of seasoning and brown grill marks, a salad with yellow chickpeas, tan farro, maroon pomegranate seeds, green cucumber & parsley, and red & white long radishes sliced in half also with flecks of seasonings

black garlic chicken skewers, za'atar butter farmers market French radishes, farro salad with pomegranate seeds, chickpeas, cucumber, pistachios, and parsley

a countdown of 51 days 23 hours 51 minutes 17 seconds until American Football drops LP4 on May 1st

it's happening

Post your favorite Lord of the Rings character. Wrong answers only.

the religious right *TO* abortion being legal will threaten those evangelicals with superiority complexes (so, most of them) soOoo intensely (complimentary)

but 👏of 👏course if a religion can mandate NO abortions! then a religion mandating HELL YEA abortions! is just as valid

teaching my kids emotional maturity & critical thinking but having to call it "brainmaxxing" just to get them to pay attention

in many ways the religious language supremacy issue can be boiled down to "which things about yourself do you not know how to explain *without* religious language?"

and the next question is "what's stopping you from learning new language for that?"

I don't even know if Mamdani is "a Muslim", just that he's Middle Eastern

why?

because he talked about policies so goddamn much

"but he's a Democrat! he supports good policies!"

great! then he can talk about being a Democrat and talk about his policies *IN PLAIN LANGUAGE*

Mamdani does this in his sleep, & he did not get elected because people think of him as "a Muslim"

they heard him talk about POLICIES and liked THAT

if I've learned one lesson from exiting toxic religion it might be

nah I ain't doing emotional labor to help people change who at their core don't want to change IF it requires their ego to survive 🤷

pay a therapist for that

life's too short to waste slamming my head into that thick of a wall

hold on.. I'm hearing you are a bot 😂

yeah imagine doing emotional labor to craft your language for your audience EVEN WHEN you think that behavior is beneath you

(fun fact: *thinking others are beneath you* was the toxic behavior at the core all along)

"haha you have to learn about my religion" IS the position of narcissistic colonizers, no matter if they know that's why they're doing it or not

now I can "translate" for you and say "what I think you're saying is.." or "how I understand that now is.."

but never once have I done this with a X-ian and received immediate equal consideration, it's always *insert 50 different toxic avoidance techniques*

if I have to submit to your unspoken assertion that 'I, the white Christian person, use this language so as a member of a MOSTLY white Christian country you HAVE to learn about my religion, na na nana na'?

it's a NO from me dawg

another way of staying this is if you are *trapped* in your religious framings by only knowing one language for your experiences?

that is a *lack of skill* -issue

I will wait to engage with you until you do the basic emotional work of learning how to connect with others in a non-supremacist way

if you ONLY have religious language to share what you need to say? I don't trust it

If you have a CHOICE between sharing it either in your religious way OR using regular, non-religious language?

please use the regular language which is just as valid as your religious language

yeah when the folks with an actual beating heart leave it further dilutes the already weak pool of empathetic connectiveness

we leave them to their own devices and their own devices don't really work

we know what it can do and we don't wish it on anyone

recoiling from *explicitly white Christian* language is not a stupid move

it is one that recognizes that American and European & their imperial histories use both progressive & regressive Christian rhetoric to further their governmental, imperial, and (often) genocidal aims

a moment I go back to alot?

I heard two lesbian moms talk about their son's mental health in such clear & personal language that immediately I knew.. these ladies have a depth to them that I had not seen in the religious adults in my community..

that shook young/dumb/full o' christ -Tim to my core

I've connected with a few but I know to only go as deep as they can handle

I use vague terms for what I'm going through - 'my mental health journey' I save the specifics for my safe spaces

they know where I am if they want to go deep but I'm not doing evangelism for anything anymore

a book Truth Matters in the firelight

flames licking out of a firepit

I burned a MacArthur book as a ritual to leave his toxic shit behind specifically, took a photo to remember it..

I can empathize with the folks who didn't call me tho

did I ever call anyone who left while I was in it? nope

why?

I was scared of being influenced by them!!

when that much of your personality is enmeshed with the beliefs you protect the beliefs at ALL costs 😭

Wikipedia excerpt reads John Nelson Darby (18 November 1800 - 29 April 1882) was a Bible teacher, one of the influential figures among the original Plymouth Brethren and the founder of the Exclusive Brethren. He is considered to be the father of modern dispensationalism and futurism. Pre-tribulation rapture theology was popularized extensively in the 1830s by Darby and the Plymouth Brethren, [1] and further popularized in the United States in the early 20th century by the wide circulation of the Scofield Reference Bible. [2] then shows a black n white photo of a mid 19th century man

the church movement I was brought up (Plymouth Brethren) can be traced back to John Nelson Darby who was the father of modern dispensationalism and made his own translation of the Bible 👇

end times posters on every Sunday school wall, that interpretation was gospel to us

I called my last pastor and told him directly and looped in a few others but yeah I initiated all that, for the most part even the moderate X-ians I was around at that time didn't reach out

before I had lotsa shallow friends and now I have way fewer friends but the ones I have can go deep with me 🥰

yeah I have a few Exvie friends who'd be down but w/ family it's still pretty raw

haha I missed Carman but I was fully into the 90's/00's X-ian music scenes, I'd go to Billy Graham crusades concerts, X-ian music day at amusement parks, and camp at X-ian music festivals