Take a deep breath for 4 seconds
Hold it for 4
Out for 4
Hold for 4

Okay breathe normally

Bugs is Shrimp

I will forever loudly complain whenever I have to drive through complicated city streets. I know i can do it. I can also hate it the whole time. I hate on it like I'm being paid to. I'm a hater for city traffic specifically and almost nothing else

If finding your own authenticity, shifting from reacting to responding to life because you aren't constantly feeling attacked anymore, and feeling a lot more peace instead of constant low-grade panick about the pace and place of your life sounds like stuff you want, join me!

In the long term:
I'll be doing multiple rounds of this newsletter to refine the text for an eventual book, but I probably won't be able to justify keeping future rounds free. It will, however, be very low cost to keep it accessible and because it will still be relatively unrefined.

This first go-round will be completely free so that i can take a slower pace and really digest the content along with you.

Read the rest on my substonk!

I'm so excited to be starting this project.

The next few months will focus on the core text for A Course in Miracles and then we'll move on to the workbook, which is 365 daily lessons.

Basically following hot people is only a problem if it shows signs that they don't view/treat people they're attracted to like whole human beings

- the "hot people" ALL have barely human proportions (like exclusively emaciated women w/ big chests and booty)
- they comment or dm degrading/disrespectful things
- they refuse to show me (secrecy is a red flag, omen for infidelity)

I literally don't care if my partner follows hot people on social media.

It only becomes a problem when:

There's literally not a wrong way, there's only right or wrong FOR YOU 🫶🏻

Your first time can be whatever vibe you want.
Head over heels in love, just getting it over with, whatever. Special or mundane as you want. Any age you feel comfortable, educated, and ready.
You don't have to do it at all ever if you don't want to.

Virginity is made up btw and so is all the pressure around the right or wrong time/way to have your first time.

Pulled this one from my archives (my old site) and gave it a refresh - which was surprisingly harder than writing something fresh???
Life be like that sometimes. It's hard to face old works

New post up on substonk.

This post should've been easy (according to my impatience) but apparently the concepts needed more time

She's cooked, she's seasoned, she's ready.

I Rebuke the Concept of Reactive Abuse
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Why would mine own ass treat me this way (sore) after all I've done for it? (leg day)

In other words, I only hate them when I want them to be someone whom I know after 11 years that they are not. They're just being who they are

I forgot to live my choice to accept them as they are and move on. That part's on me

I only ever hate my roommate a lil when I think they should be displaying a level of compassion, empathy, and ability to take accountability that would have had to be present for us to still be friends.

Oh good god someone's got me making stupid delulu faces again

Right and wrong only exist for each individual

Connecting to authenticity is how you learn what that means for you

I chose the name hedonic flow because it's closer to hedonism than eudaimonia - focusing on healing trauma and building a life filled with sustainable, healthy pleasure practices both sexual and not that serve you both in the present and long term.

My ideology is not hedonism in the classically defined sense but it's also not quite eudaimonia.

What would life feel like if you didn't see love as a limited resource?

Mitski really cooked with "my love is mine all mine"

That one line has been shifting my brain chemistry slowly but surely for years

Every sentence is either spreading love or asking for it, at its core, so every social media presence on every platform at some point and in some way is seeking validation, care, etc.

It's just being human :)

Everyone should get bimbo'd once in their life just to see how it feels for them.

No shade if it isn't for you but we could definitely have more people serving cvnt if they could try it and learn that they love it

Anger is the "this is wrong, let's take action to change it" emotion

And it's always the trench coat being worn by a deeper emotion like sadness or fear

I just know my moral perfectionism baddies need to hear this one:

There's no objectively right or wrong choices in life, just right or wrong FOR YOU

What would you do if you were certain you couldn't fail?

Morning mindset shift:
How can I convert today's drudgery into a pleasure practice?

Translation: how can I find ease and enjoyment in what I usually see as monotonous, routine, boring, or unfun?

I post for the dudes, dudettes, and duderinos who thought there was something terribly wrong with them mentally or physically until they found out their biggest support was secretly their biggest opp