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@thegrumpyenby

queer | transmasc enby | bi | kinky | poly | AuDHD | CPTSD | EDS? | covid cautious | serial immigrant | serious AI hater | deeply unserious person tech lead at @distributeaid.org | freelance dev content πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ή in Galicia πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No soy expat. Soy immigrante.

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I also play is it MCAS, as of yet undefined EDS, cPTSD, AuDHD or a combination? πŸ˜†

09.03.2026 16:15 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

If you have been blessed with a trans child;

1. Keep them away from the NHS
2. Try and move abroad if you can
3. Be prepared to fight transphobic staff at school
4. Find other sources of hormones/medication. If you can, get a car loan to pay for them.
5. Protect them from all governmental agencies.

09.03.2026 08:19 πŸ‘ 668 πŸ” 124 πŸ’¬ 10 πŸ“Œ 8

saying you "coded something with agentic AI" is like saying you made a cake "from scratch" but all you did was bung boxed cake mix in the oven with some milk in it

09.03.2026 12:59 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

'When the hype inevitably dies down, as it has done many times before, through AI summers and winters, you want to have skills. You want to have a degree that matters.'

09.03.2026 08:51 πŸ‘ 15 πŸ” 4 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I started out on 1/4 of 20mg twice a day, then switched to 1/2. the ones I still had from living in Germany were easily splittable but the ones I get here in Spain have a film coating that makes that almost impossible. I'm doing OK on the 10mg twice a day so feels silly to go up to 2x20mg just now

09.03.2026 09:56 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

that’s good to know. I’ll also check with my pharmacist if they have splittable tablets (the generics are coated here or sth) or 10mg ones.

09.03.2026 09:34 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
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a man is standing in front of a sign that says this is audrey Alt: A scene from Little Shop of Horrors where Seymour (played by Rick Moranis) is standing in front of Audrey, humongous carnivorous plant, who is clamouring "Feed me, Seymour"

I don't see how tbh. I think it's likely I am just so chronically under-sleeping (and have been my entire life) that the moment my body gets a lick of more sleep it clamours for more.

09.03.2026 08:16 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

why do I always feel worse when I sleep more? I got a solid 7 hours last night and I feel kinda mid tbh

09.03.2026 07:48 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

damn, I did not know this. I just went up with famotidine because the Spanish tablets can't be split properly and I figured it can't hurt but in that case I'll be splitting them again, even if it ends up being pill crumbles.

09.03.2026 07:41 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

both brain fog and fatigue are major symptoms of a flare for me so I'm not surprised. Might be worth paying attention to whether exercise and heat are also triggers for you. I have to bookend my workouts with famotidine and cromolyn.

09.03.2026 07:40 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

my main triggers are not food but environmental but those are much harder to ascertain because you can't exactly diet for air πŸ™ƒ that said, running aid purifiers in every room and finding the right combo of antihistamines and blockers has brought a lot of improvement.

09.03.2026 07:36 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I've been reading labels for gluten/wheat for 15 years. I have absolutely zero trust lol so a label check has become second nature

09.03.2026 07:33 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I debated pointing you towards @rahaeli.bsky.social but I figured I'd give it a day, not to overwhelm you πŸ˜†

09.03.2026 07:29 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

yeah, I'd say welcome to the club but it's just not a great club and I don't recommend it

I'm now on a combo of 4 traditional antihistamines plus some supplements and it's, like, bearable 😬

08.03.2026 10:01 πŸ‘ 5 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

😲 that sounds personal. something clearly has beef with you. but as someone with MCAS, I also tend to be like "mast cells 🀷🏼"

08.03.2026 01:52 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 2 πŸ“Œ 0
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Pay Kimberley Bernier using PayPal.Me Go to paypal.me/KbsBTragedee and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

Sharing again , in case anyone can help.

No pressure at all.

Thank you for being my friends.

www.paypal.me/KbsBTragedee

05.03.2026 19:07 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 2 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

poison oak? I thought you're an experienced hiker, how tf did that happen?

feel you on the knee, only the funny spot on the elbow is worse

07.03.2026 20:45 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

thank you! 😊

07.03.2026 20:44 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
White transmasc person with black glasses and a faded black tank showing off a new haircut. It's a bit fluffy at the top, and short on the sides. There's a fade at the back that you obviously cant see from this direction.

White transmasc person with black glasses and a faded black tank showing off a new haircut. It's a bit fluffy at the top, and short on the sides. There's a fade at the back that you obviously cant see from this direction.

I have suffered the indignity of the barber playing clearly "vintage" music and me knowing every word to every song because it was the same stuff we awkwardly slow danced to circa middle school πŸ˜† So now I feel old. But I did get a great haircut!

07.03.2026 11:03 πŸ‘ 7 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I know it’s not the end of the world but it sure is the end of my tether

06.03.2026 15:30 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I’m full of fury with nowhere to put it. my nervous system is shot. I already have a shit ton of medical appointments each week and a ton of mental overhead and they just made it worse. I’ve now had 2 lab appointments with them so far, and each time they fucked something up. the tism is not amused.

06.03.2026 15:30 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I have to redo my 24h urine test. My useless medical center fucked up and told me to return only a small sample last week. I should’ve handed in the whole bottle. So now I have to forgo chocolate, tea, coffee, banana, vanilla, and nuts again for 3 days and then piss into a bottle again for 24 hours.

06.03.2026 15:30 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I feel like vibe coding is the opposite of rubber ducking

instead of helping you debug
it just gets worse

05.03.2026 20:46 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I guess if you are/know a good PMM with a technical background who's capable of taking charge and owning this position, hmu. (European time zones preferred)

05.03.2026 13:03 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Getting a handful of these weird and off-putting cryptonerds trying to argue about this.

Brother, Nostr is over there. Join your weird and off-putting and extremely suspicious fellow travellers in Jack Dorsey's *other* attempt at making a safe space for you freaks.

16.02.2026 02:08 πŸ‘ 549 πŸ” 96 πŸ’¬ 2 πŸ“Œ 4

What's funny is, every rude label is done manually. It's not an automatic grep for cuss words, a mod manually flagged it

16.02.2026 16:55 πŸ‘ 8 πŸ” 2 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 1
BREAKING: Iranian artists TRICKED
US-Israeli joint forces with "paintings on the ground."
Experts believe that the recently contracted OpenAl-driven weapon technologies have
"wasted millions of dollars" worth of missiles.

BREAKING: Iranian artists TRICKED US-Israeli joint forces with "paintings on the ground." Experts believe that the recently contracted OpenAl-driven weapon technologies have "wasted millions of dollars" worth of missiles.

Art really scored one against AI here.

05.03.2026 06:25 πŸ‘ 2122 πŸ” 509 πŸ’¬ 31 πŸ“Œ 62

I love games and so many of the people who make them. It was an honor to accept the award on behalf of the team and a privilege to be able to speak to what I believe in. β™₯️

05.03.2026 06:08 πŸ‘ 9672 πŸ” 1755 πŸ’¬ 88 πŸ“Œ 17

Theyre admittedly hard to find. My client has been looking for a PMM for a while and we just aren't getting any candidates that actually are a fit. Candidate pool is diverse, partially because I've shared it in my networks, so that's not to blame for once. It's just hard to find ppl who get both.

05.03.2026 12:58 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I undeniably get a kick out of this every time it happens but it also says something about the persistent disconnect between marketing and engineering teams. And that saddens me because there's so much opportunity there. The problem is that many tech companies are not hiring technical marketers.

05.03.2026 12:58 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0