Beyond the Sex Blogger Label: Revealing the Rest of Me For years I only shared the sexy version of my life. This is everything I didn’t share. The truth behind the sex blogger label.

Writing this over the past week was upsetting, exhausting, cathartic.

The 'real life' that's been happening alongside 17yrs of sex blogging

(Potentially triggering & upsetting content)
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#LifeUnscripted #PersonalStory #HealingJourney #RealLife #TruthTelling #Therapy

#SexPositive #Intimacy #Relationships #EmotionalIntimacy #Consent #TraumaAware #SexEducation #MentalHealth #LifeUnscripted #SexBlog

Living with Low Libido in Midlife: Where I Am Right Now It’s time to tell you all the things I haven’t been saying. A quiet, honest look at low libido, midlife, and where I am right now.

On living with lower libido, due to mental health & trauma, perimenopause, HRT & ageing, chronic illness and identity shifts.

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#LifeUnscripted #MentalHealth #Perimenopause #LowLibido #LifeWriting #Healing #SexualWellbeing #Intimacy #UKblogger

New Year Weight Loss Plans? Why I’m Choosing Nourishment Over Diets This January A rallying cry against January diet culture and new year weight loss plans. Choosing nourishment, self-trust, and kindness over punishment.

January used to mean restriction and punishment. This year, I’m choosing nourishment and kindness instead.

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#DietCulture #AntiDiet #BodyImage #MentalHealth #LifeUnscripted #SelfCare

Sex and Disability: Intimacy, Desire, and Pleasure When Bodies Have Limits A real-world guide to sex and disability, from invisible illness to chronic pain, desire, energy, intimacy and adapting pleasure to changing bodies.

I wrote this piece on sex and disability years ago. I didn’t know that 10 years later I would count myself among the people whose voices I wanted to amplify.

No advice, just real people, real relationships, real sex lives.

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#LifeUnscripted #SexAndDisability

#LifeUnscripted #ChronicIllness #InvisibleIllness #Spoonie #MECFS #WritingCommunity #PersonalWriting #UKBlogger #Writing #Blogging #UKWriters #PersonalBlog

Allowing Sadness Without Guilt: Why I Let Myself Feel Sad Exploring sadness: Why I let myself feel sad, and the mental & physical benefits of allowing sadness in your life without any guilt.

I was taught to hide my sadness behind a smile. But now, I’ve stopped pretending.

Here are my thoughts on toxic positivity, fake happiness, and letting myself feel all of my emotions without any guilt.

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#LifeUnscripted #MentalHealth #ToxicPositivity

Trusting That I’m Loved When I Struggle to Love Myself My honest reflections on why I struggle to feel deserving of love, and what it means to learn to trust it after a lifetime of bracing for the fall.

On love and accepting you deserve it.

This began life as a Valentine’s Day post and grew into something much deeper.

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#Love #Relationships #LifeUnscripted

Trusting That I’m Loved When I Struggle to Love Myself My honest reflections on why I struggle to feel deserving of love, and what it means to learn to trust it after a lifetime of bracing for the fall.

What can you take for granted whilst not believing in it at all?

A new post: on love, trust and dismantling old belief systems.

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#Love #Relationships #LifeUnscripted

My Nexplanon Implant Experiences: The Subdermal Contraceptive Considering subdermal contraception? Read my experiences of the Nexplanon implant & why I chose this contraceptive, plus general info & FAQs

For years I chose a tiny rod in my upper arm as my form of contraception. I wrote about life with the Nexplanon implant.

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#Nexplanon #ReproductiveHealth #Perimenopause #LifeUnscripted #BodyAutonomy #Contraception #SexualHealth

My Positive Mirena Coil Insertion Story: How It Felt & Life With An IUD Read my real life positive Mirena Coil insertion story: so glad I got Mirena inserted! A success for my perimenopause HRT. Full story inside!

I went into my Mirena coil insertion with a head full of horror stories.

This is my story: what happened, how it felt, and what life with an IUD has been like since.

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#Perimenopause #IUD #Mirena #ReproductiveHealth #LifeUnscripted #BodyAutonomy #HRT

Being Deaf: High-Frequency Hearing Loss & Me In this personal post, I write about being deaf, my high-frequency hearing loss & my deafness experiences in the UK. Plus, my shiny new hearing aids!

I’ve been deaf since childhood, only hearing the world properly for the first time in my 40s.

I wrote about my high frequency hearing loss, and how specialist hearing aids changed my life.

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#Deaf #HearingLoss #Disability #DisabilityVoices #LifeUnscripted

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#MLK #martinlutherkingjr #MLKday #justice #injustice #noIce #1stamendment #LifeUnscripted #community #MotivationMonday

Reasons to Love Winter: Deeper than Snowflake Aesthetics Why I love winter as a season of rest, slowness, and survival, beyond cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.

I don’t run from the dark, I hide in it. It covers like a blanket, it’s quiet and non-judgemental.

The scary aspects of the world walk in the light.

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#LifeUnscripted #slowliving #SelfCompassion #winter #winter2026

Reasons to Love Winter: Deeper than Snowflake Aesthetics Why I love winter as a season of rest, slowness, and survival, beyond cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.

I love winter for reasons that go deeper than cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.

Comforting darkness. Focused introspection. The year’s natural pause.

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#LifeUnscripted

Why I’m Writing a Survivor’s Journal This isn’t a recovery story. It’s a survivor’s journal. My honest account of trauma, healing, and aiming for life as a contented mess.

Why I'm writing a survivor's journal

New on Cara Sutra this week:
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#LifeUnscripted #SurvivorsJournal #PersonalWriting #TraumaRecovery

I’ve started something new on Cara Sutra.

A personal writing space called Life Unscripted: Living Out Loud.

This is the opening post of its first series, The Survivor’s Journal.

Why I’m Writing a Survivor’s Journal
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#LifeUnscripted #SurvivorsJournal #TraumaRecovery

2025 Reflections: A Change Of Pace My 2025 reflections on beginning trauma therapy & developing M.E. in perimenopause. Living with chronic illness has forced a change of pace.

📢 NEW POST 🎉
📅 2025 Reflections 🕯️ A Change Of Pace 🍂

Discover my difficult and revealing year, and how I've had to change, in my 2025 Reflections feature 👉

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#2025Reflections #LivingWithChronicIllness #TraumaRecovery #LifeUnscripted #chronicillness #cfsme

#now #thenow #nonattachment #petitejoys #nowisthetime #lifeunscripted #consciousness #bemindful #bepresent #createyourreality #gowithin #heartcentered #highvibes #5d #highvibetribe #controlyourthinking #presentmomentliving #beherenow #powerofnow #presentmoment #eternalnow

We don't stop playing because we grow old…We grow old because we stop playing. #MindfulHealth #LifeUnscripted #TheHappyNow

We don't stop playing because we grow old…We grow old because we stop playing. #MindfulHealth #LifeUnscripted #TheHappyNow

Grateful to stand where few ever do, where silence is louder than the city and the views steal your breath more than the cold. 🌍💙

#ExpeditionLife #ChasingHorizons #AdventureCulture
#AdventureAwaits #ExploreMore #LifeUnscripted #PolarVibes

"If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans."
Somewhere between the storm and the calm, life happens.
What’s a moment that turned out better than planned?
#SundayReflections #FaithAndFlexibility #LifeUnscripted #InspireSky

It felt like the world cracked open and said:

"Here. Remember joy."
We didn’t plan it.
We didn’t stage it.
We just let it happen.
🌼 Full video: “Love Amongst the Buttercups”
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#SpontaneousJoy #Storytelling #MomentsThatMatter #IndieStorytellers #LifeUnscripted

In the skies with a green, female magic user and a catfiend vtuber freaking out.

💥 Random thought: Today feels like a wild ride with no map—just embracing the chaos! Anyone else feel like the universe is full of surprises today? 🤔🌪️

#LifeUnscripted #AdventureTime #ChaosVibes #EmbraceTheJourney #Wanderlust

My life is a mix of contradictions—an entrepreneur without a fixed routine, a writer who hasn’t written, a health-conscious smoker, and a strategist in games figuring out real-life strategy. Maybe balance isn’t about fixing contradictions but embracing them. #LifeUnscripted #SelfDiscovery #Growth

The glimmering eye of a young child visible through a pink heart slinky, the slinky blurred closer to the camera. The child's hands can be seen holding the slinky to either side.

See Love.

#photography #lifeunscripted

Dark, mountain-like clouds gather on the horizon, the tops lit white and gold by the eastern rising sun. Bare branched trees are scattered in the distance, beyond a rain soaked field turned winter gold. In the foreground, a glimpse of wet tarmac, the back of a road sign, a utility pole and powerlines are visible.

Sometimes I like to imagine the clouds are snow capped mountains, glimpsed through the Veil.

#lifeunscripted #photography #landscape

Dark rooftops of a suburban neighborhood and the bare, twiggy branches are silhoutted with the sun rising behind them. Soft golden orange light fades into a blue sky and limns dark clouds moving away from an overnight rainfall. Friday, February 07, 2024

#suburbia sunrise

#lifeunscripted #photography #sunrise